In what has become a New Year’s Day “tradition”, I again offer this post for your consideration.
Unless you happen to be like my muse, Calvin, in the comic strip, I suspect you are about to make some New Year’s resolutions. How did you do on last year’s resolutions? About the same as the rest of us? One ad hominem wisdom saying defines “insanity” this way: to keep doing the same thing and expect a different result. Perhaps 2022 is a time to consider changing the way resolutions are considered, made, and hopefully, kept.
And while you are considering all this, I would note that I have often written about the necessity to actively, mindfully practice virtue lest we let our baser habits rule us. My experience as a priest listening to folks in all phases of life – and looking at my own life – we forever underestimate the power of “habit” over us. The question to ponder: is it a good habit or a bad habit? Which is another way of asking – is it a habit formed by a virtue, a fruit of the Spirit or formed in other, less holy ways?” So many of the resolutions we make are attempts to address habits that we want to eliminate, reduce, or reform.
During Advent 2021, with growing pandemic concerns, people were hestiant to celebrate the Sacrament of Reconciliation as a spiritual preparation for Christmas and the New Year. But consider your own confessions of the past. We list our sins and the areas of our lives that are in need of God’s forgiveness. As a confessor I will sometimes respond with, “If you could only work on one thing from your list, what would be the priority? What would be the one thing you would take into prayer and ask God’s help?” Most people intuitively know their lives and come up with an answer. I encourage them to do just that: focus on the one thing with God’s help.
It is good to know that my intuitive encouragement has some scientific foundation. According to Roy Baumeister and John Tierney in their book “Willpower,” it’s incredibly difficult to make a change in more than one area of your life at a time. Why? Because each of us has only a limited supply of willpower, and we deplete our supply when we try to ward off some temptation or persevere in some new virtue. Did you spend all day resisting the sweets at the office? You will find it incredibly difficult to not have “just a little dessert” after dinner. Choose one habit you want to quit first and conserve your willpower for that priority. Only after the resolution is no longer daunting, should you then move to a new resolution.
What if the habit or behavior that you would like to change involves sin? Now temptation, free will, and choice are mixed in the blender of humanity, the siren’s call of “modern” life, and a whole host of other items. I would suggest that Baumeister and Tierney’s advice – focus on one sin/sinful habit – is still good advice. But I would also add that there is another dimension in play. While the Sacrament of Reconciliation offers God’s forgiveness, it also provides grace to seek God’s wisdom in addressing the underlying element of one’s life that needs healing. Is human willpower involved? Absolutely, but it is fortified by God’s grace, the Holy Spirit, and Wisdom of God in discovering what requires healing in one’s life. But there is more.
The Letter of James 5:16 is a verse many folks are not familiar with: “Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The fervent prayer of a righteous person is very powerful.” But I would add, be careful whom you tell. As Derek Sivers shares in his succinct TED Talk, it’s often better to keep your goals to yourself. Counter to our intuition, sharing our aspirations with others doesn’t encourage us to persevere or keep us accountable. Sivers goes on to explain that if you really need to tell someone, enlist a person to help keep you accountable, for instance, by checking in weekly on how you’re doing. And in the context of our faith, that means share your success, your failures, and prayer with your fellow Christian.
It is in the power of prayer that the grace of God fortifies free will, resolution, and commitment. It is in the power of your prayer/accountability partner that perseverance is reinforced.
It is insanity to keep doing the same thing and expecting a different result. Maybe this year try something new regarding your resolutions for a better, more holy life: include prayer, partnership, and the power of God when choosing the one thing.
Keeping it simple. Pray more. And buy a new Rays hat. Feeling bullish about my chances!
Happy New Year Father!
Most excellent plan, my friend. Happy New Year
Happy New Year 🎈🎊 Fr. George. God Bless you🙏
Happy New Year to you!