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Being a holy family

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Today we celebrate the Feast of the Holy Family. We’re not celebrating “perfect family Sunday.” Offered as a point of humor, let us remember Jesus was without sin and Mary, by God’s grace, was kept free from sin – no such claim was made for Joseph. He wasn’t perfect, but he was holy. And so we celebrate and consider holiness this Sunday as we are all called to remember that it was into a family that God sent his Son. A family that has its ups and downs, joys and sorrows, agreements and disputes, and all the things that are tossed into the cauldron called family life. A family like yours in many ways. A family that was holy, not perfect. My point being, that holiness lives and grows apart from perfection and perhaps even thrives best among the flawed and messy. And in family life, that means something far different than a Norman Rockwell painting. 

Consider the early life of the Holy Family:

  • Joseph and Mary are betrothed one moment, and the next Joseph finds out Mary is with child and not his.  But with God’s grace they work through it.
  • Next, circumstances made them vagabonds on the road, arriving in a town with no room at the inn. A cave would have to suffice.
  • Jesus is born, wrapped in whatever cloth was around, and laid in a feed trough. 
  • The local power, King Herod, is trying to kill them
  • They are on the run, heading to Egypt as refugees, probably using the gold, frankincense, and myrrh for bribes, border crossings, payoffs, and to settle in a foreign land
  • When they return, they seem to settle in a new town and have to start all over in another part of Israel, Galilee to be specific, that was the butt of many disparaging remarks. They ended up in Nazareth which was no more than a wide spot on the road.
  • Joseph seems to have passed his trade onto Jesus, but we really do not know too much. Joseph seems to disappear from the Biblical narrative relatively early during Jesus’ childhood – it is almost has though Mary, at some point, was a single mom raising Jesus.
  • For the first 30 years, Jesus seems to have lived a sedate life in Nazareth – and no doubt Mary wondered about the messages of the angels, the prophet Simeon, the visit of the Magi, and all the things that proclaimed her Son to be Messiah.
  • And then Jesus enters public life – what was she to think. There is a scene in which the disciples interrupt Jesus to let him know that his mother is outside and wants him to come home.

Hardly a portrait of a perfect family. But a family that is together through the very turbulent cauldron of their life. I do not think too many people are going to volunteer to travel the same path to holiness in their family. No matter what path, family can be a cauldron where hearts and souls are tested.

But here’s the thing about families: everyone is part of one.  You choose your friends, not your family.  Still family isn’t for you.  It is all for others in the family.  Listen again to the words of our reading from the Letter to the Colossians – it is a blueprint for making family holy no matter whatever form or shape you find yours – and it is neither simple nor easy – but it is graced.

as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved – Begin by remembering you are loved. Recall your faith in God and Jesus – that alone makes you hagios – a holy one.  Admiral William McRaven gave a commencement speech in 2014 that became a book:  Make Your Bed. His advice was, first thing in the morning, before all else, make your bed. And you will have already accomplished something at the beginning of the day. I would amend that advice: remember you are holy and beloved…and then make your bed. 

Put on, …. heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another: Put on… in other words, it will take an effort. Part of the effort might be that you are being called to be/do other than what you feel. Compassion and all the rest might be a universe away, or seem that way, amidst all the turbulence and turmoil in your heart. 

Think about patience: “Patience is a virtue.” We’re all familiar with that expression, and many of us know that patience is listed by Paul in Galatians 5:22-23 as among the fruit of the Spirit. So, there’s no disputing that the Christian ought to be patient. But what about impatience? Is it a sin? I would suggest it is a temptation but remember this: all such moments are ever surrounded by the grace of God in superabundance. You just need to remind yourself to choose grace – and where patience is lacking, compassion, kindness, or gentleness can take its place. 

The 19th century theologian, Maurice Blondell, suggested that in the moment you most feel like striking out at another who has offended you, worn out your patience or any other manner of annoying thing – in that moment, to choose charity, is perhaps the most Christian you will ever be. In that moment you have chosen to follow Christ instead of yourself.  Blondell goes on to write, in essence, that just keep doing such virtues and you will become those virtues. Your thoughts become your actions, which become your habits, which form your character, which leaves you as the person you have become.

if one has a grievance against another; as the Lord has forgiven you, so must you also do. No one earns true forgiveness, it is always a gift. Give it away. There’s more!! If you pause for a moment it is not too hard to dip into our own memories and experience to recall a time when we had been wronged and we were just not able/willing to forgive, or the forgiveness was so shallow that it did not take root and soon arose again into daily life. It is not too hard to imagine those moments in our lives as moments of darkness with not a whole lot of light able to penetrate and shine in. Poetically it is as though those times are as being imprisoned by hurts and our lack of forgiveness. We are just unable to set down the burden of all that marks those days and nights. Meanwhile, the other person is probably not giving the matter a second thought, just moving through life unburdened, free.  …and then you meet the other person. Be charitable in the moment remembering you have been forgiven. So pass on the gift.

And over all these put on love, that is, the bond of perfection. Despite what Hallmark Cards proclaims, love is a choice. Ask anyone who has been married for many years. They can all remember a time when they did not like the love of their life, but they chose to love: “love bear all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never fails…” But we have to choose to love, to make the effort, to “put on” love.

All of the above is to be your gift to your family. 

What’s there for you? 

Hopefully, your example helps create a home where those gifts are being given to you by others.  Then you will know: And let the peace of Christ control your hearts… Even when you don’t feel peaceful.

And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly…. with gratitude in your hearts…

This is your family.  It is one of a kind, warts and all.  It is uniquely loved by God

Go do all these things, “put them on.” Be a holy family.

Here’s a question: heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience – are we as family members holding that out to one another? We need to because Family is like a roller coaster – wonderful one moment, chaos and screaming the next, and a lot of hard work in between. 

Holiness isn’t about feeling happy and having rosy memories. It is about love — the kind of love that is willing to suffer or die for the beloved. The kind of love Christ has for us.

First thing tomorrow: remember you are holy and beloved. Then make up your bed.

Amen

Image credit: Stained glass window, Sts. Joseph & Paul Catholic Church, Owensboro KY | PD

The Date of Christmas

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Christians around the world will gather to celebrate Jesus’ birth. The season is punctuated by carols, gatherings and parties, good cheer, brightly wrapped gifts, festive foods, and family traditions. In my parish we need ten Masses between Christmas Eve and Christmas Day to accommodate all the folks who come to celebrate the Nativity. At the masses the familiar and traditional gospel readings are proclaimed telling of angels, shepherds, and a child wrapped in swaddling born to save us. All of this on the same date each year: December 25th.

How did December 25 come to be associated with Jesus’ birthday? The Bible does not specify the date of the Nativity. Which is interesting in that the gospels are quite specific as regards the Last Supper, the Crucifixion and the Resurrection. Lots of people might offer, it can not have been December since shepherds were tending their flocks in pasture lands; that would be during the spring lambing season; in the cold month of December, on the other hand, sheep might well have been corralled. But then one should have a bit of caution when trying to exact a date from an incidental detail whose purpose is theological.

But it is interesting to note that the earlier New Testament scripture – St. Paul’s epistles and the Gospel of Mark – make no mention of Jesus’ birth. But the Gospels of Matthew and Luke provide us with the well known accounts, although without mentioning a date. The writings of the early Christian era, the first and second century, has no mention of birth celebrations in the writings of folks such as Irenaeus (c. 130–200), Tertullian (c. 160–225) or Origen of Alexandria (c. 165–264). 

In the second century, we see additional details of Jesus’ birth and childhood – but they are written in books not considered part of the Canon of Sacred Scripture (apocryphal writings) such as the Infancy Gospel of Thomas and the Proto-Gospel of James. These texts provide everything from the names of Jesus’ grandparents to the details of his education, but not the date of his birth. In about 200 AD, Clement of Alexandria notes that several different days had been proposed by various Christian groups. Surprisingly, December 25 is not mentioned at all. The dates being bandied about were August 28th and May 20th. By the fourth century we find references to two dates, Dec 25 (West) and January 6 (East), that seemed to be celebrated in the Roman Empire.  In time December 25 would prevail as the date for celebrating  the Nativity, while January 6 eventually came to be known as the Feast of the Epiphany, commemorating the arrival of the magi in Bethlehem.

But why December 25th?

A popular theory is that the Christian Church borrowed from the pagan celebration of Sol Invictus (the Unconquered Sun), a Roman celebration established in 274 AD by the Roman emperor Aurelian. According to this theory, early Christians deliberately chose these dates to encourage the spread of Christmas and Christianity throughout the Roman world. Despite its popularity today, this theory of Christmas’s origins has its problems. It is not found in any ancient Christian writings. Some Christian authors of the time note a connection between the solstice and Jesus’ birth, but in connection with setting a calendar date. Rather they see the coincidence as a providential sign, as natural proof that God had selected Jesus over the false pagan gods.

It’s not until the 12th century that we find the first suggestion that Jesus’ birth celebration was deliberately set at the time of pagan feasts. A marginal note on a manuscript of the writings of the Syriac biblical commentator Dionysius bar-Salibi states that in ancient times the Christmas holiday was actually shifted from January 6 to December 25 so that it fell on the same date as the pagan Sol Invictus holiday. In the 18th and 19th centuries, Bible scholars spurred on by the new study of comparative religions latched on to this idea. They claimed that because the early Christians didn’t know when Jesus was born, they simply assimilated the pagan solstice festival for their own purposes, claiming it as the time of the Messiah’s birth and celebrating it accordingly. This line of argument was extended to show that many of the Christmas holiday’s traditions reflect pagan customs borrowed from pagan practices, e.g., the Christmas tree. But all of these traditions are from a much later period as Christianity expanded into northern and western Europe. 

There are problems with this popular theory. Most significantly, the first mention of a date for Christmas (c. 200) and the earliest celebrations that we know about (c. 250–300) come in a period when Christians were not borrowing heavily from pagan traditions. In the first few centuries, the persecuted Christian minority was greatly concerned with distancing itself from the larger, public pagan religious observances, such as sacrifices, games and holidays. This was still true as late as the violent persecutions of the Christians conducted by the Roman emperor Diocletian between 303 and 312 C.E.

When Constantine came to power and converted to Christianity, Christianity took over pagan temples and converted them to churches, but there is no evidence of Christians adopting pagan festivals in the third century, at which point dates for Christmas were established. Thus, it seems unlikely that the date was simply selected to correspond with pagan solar festivals.

There is some evidence that the Donatist Christians in North Africa were celebrating the Nativity of the Lord on December 25th in the 3rd century before the age of Constantine and perhaps even before the establishment of Sol Invictus.  Which still leaves us with: why December 25th?

Around 200 AD Tertullian of Carthage calculated that the date of Jesus’ death, given in the Gospel of John at 14th of Nissan, was equivalent to March 25th in the Roman calendar.  That date should stand out as it is the date the Catholic Church celebrates the Feast of the Annunciation, Jesus’ conception. And yes, that date is 9 months prior to December 25. 

An idea of the time was that Jesus was conceived and crucified on the same calendar date. The idea appears in an anonymous Christian treatise titled “On Solstices and Equinoxes”, which is likely from fourth-century North Africa. The treatise states: “Therefore our Lord was conceived on the eighth of the kalends of April in the month of March [March 25], which is the day of the passion of the Lord and of his conception. For on that day he was conceived on the same he suffered.” St. Augustine was familiar with this association. In On the Trinity (c. 399–419) he writes: “For he [Jesus] is believed to have been conceived on the 25th of March, upon which day also he suffered; so the womb of the Virgin, in which he was conceived, where no one of mortals was begotten, corresponds to the new grave in which he was buried, wherein was never man laid, neither before him nor since. But he was born, according to tradition, upon December the 25th.”

In Eastern Christianity the same idea was present, but rather than March 25th, the starting date was April 6th. Bishop Epiphanius of Salamis writes that on April 6, “The lamb was shut up in the spotless womb of the holy virgin, he who took away and takes away in perpetual sacrifice the sins of the world.” This led to the dating of the Nativity on January 6th. Thus, we have Christians in two parts of the world calculating Jesus’ birth on the basis that his death and conception took place on the same day (March 25 or April 6) and coming up with two close but different results (December 25 and January 6).

Connecting Jesus’ conception and death is an odd connection for us to make, but it reflects ancient and medieval understandings of the whole of salvation being bound up together. One of the most poignant expressions of this belief is found in Christian art. In numerous paintings of the angel’s Annunciation to Mary, the moment of Jesus’ conception, the baby Jesus is shown gliding down from heaven on or with a small cross; a visual reminder that the conception brings the promise of salvation through Jesus’ death.

Image credit: The Annunciation | Master Bertram, 1379-1383 | Altarpiece at St Peter (Grabow) | Kunsthalle, Hamburg.  Source credit: Andrew McGowan, Bible History Daily | July 10, 2025